Memorial Service for Mary Alice Bailey

Tuesday, September 29th, 11 am

A Service of
Thanksgiving for the

Life of  Mary Alice Ballman Bailey
1930 – 2020

September 29, 2020 11:00 AM

The liturgy for the dead is an Easter liturgy. It finds all its meaning in the resurrection. Because Jesus was raised from the dead, we, too, shall be raised.
The liturgy, therefore is characterized by joy, in the certainty that “neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
This joy, however, does not make human grief unchristian. The very love we have for each other in Christ brings deep sorrow when we are parted by death. Jesus himself wept at the grave of his friend. So, while we rejoice that one we love has entered into the nearer presence of our Lord, we sorrow in sympathy with those who mourn.

Ringing of the Bell
All stand while the following anthem is said

I am the resurrection and the life, saith the Lord;
he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live;
and whosoever liveth and believeth in me shall never die.

I know that my Redeemer liveth,
and that he shall stand at the latter day upon the earth;
and though this body be destroyed, yet shall I see God;
whom I shall see for myself and mine eyes shall behold, 
and not as a stranger.

For none of us liveth to himself,
and no man dieth to himself.
For if we live, we live unto the Lord;
and if we die, we die unto the Lord.
Whether we live, therefore, or die, we are the Lord’s.

Blessed are the dead who die in the Lord;
even so saith the Spirit, for they rest from their labors.

Processional Hymn 711 Seek ye First

The Collect for the Departed
Celebrant The Lord be with you.
People And with thy spirit
Celebrant Let us pray.

O God, whose mercies cannot be numbered: Accept our prayers on behalf of thy servant Mary Alice, and grant her an entrance into the land of light and joy, in the fellowship of thy saints; through Jesus Christ thy Son our Lord, who liveth and reigneth with thee and the Holy Spirit, one God, now and for ever. Amen.

The people are seated for the lessons.

First Reading          Job 19:21-27a

Have pity on me, have pity on me, O you my friends,
for the hand of God has touched me!
Why do you, like God, pursue me,
never satisfied with my flesh?
‘O that my words were written down!
O that they were inscribed in a book!
O that with an iron pen and with lead
they were engraved on a rock for ever!
For I know that my Redeemer lives,
and that at the last he will stand upon the earth;
and after my skin has been thus destroyed,
then in my flesh I shall see God,
whom I shall see on my side,
and my eyes shall behold, and not another.
My heart faints within me!

Reader The Word of the Lord
People Thanks be to God

Psalm 121

Read in unison

I will lift up mine eyes unto the hills; *
from whence cometh my help?

My help cometh even from the LORD, *
who hath made heaven and earth.

He will not suffer thy foot to be moved, *
and he that keepeth thee will not sleep.

Behold, he that keepeth Israel *
shall neither slumber nor sleep.

The LORD himself is thy keeper; *
the LORD is thy defence upon thy right hand;

So that the sun shall not burn thee by day, *
neither the moon by night.

The LORD shall preserve thee from all evil; *
yea, it is even he that shall keep thy soul.

The LORD shall preserve thy going out, and thy coming in, *
from this time forth for evermore.

Second Reading         Revelation 21:2-7

And I saw the holy city, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband. And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, ‘See, the home of God is among mortals. He will dwell with them;
they will be his peoples, and God himself will be with them; he will wipe every tear from their eyes. Death will be no more; mourning and crying and pain will be no more, for the first things have passed away.’
And the one who was seated on the throne said, ‘See, I am making all things new.’
Also he said, ‘Write this, for these words are trustworthy and true.’ Then he said to me, ‘It is done! I am the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end. To the thirsty I will give water as a gift from the spring of the water of life. Those who conquer will inherit these things, and I will be their God and they will be my children.

Reader The Word of the Lord
People Thanks be to God

Psalm 27

Read in unison

The LORD is my light and my salvation;
whom then shall I fear? *
the LORD is the strength of my life;
of whom then shall I be afraid?

One thing have I desired of the LORD, which I will require, *
even that I may dwell in the house of the LORD all the days of my life, to behold the fair beauty of the LORD, and to visit his temple.

For in the time of trouble he shall hide me in his tabernacle; *
yea, in the secret place of his dwelling shall he hide me, and set me up upon a rock of stone.

And now shall he lift up mine head *
above mine enemies round about me.

Therefore will I offer in his dwelling an oblation with great gladness; *
I will sing and speak praises unto the LORD.

Hearken unto my voice, O LORD, when I cry unto thee; *
have mercy upon me, and hear me.

My heart hath talked of thee, Seek ye my face. *
Thy face, LORD, will I seek.

O hide not thou thy face from me, *
nor cast thy servant away in displeasure.

I should utterly have fainted, *
but that I believe verily to see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living.

O tarry thou the LORD’s leisure; *
be strong, and he shall comfort thine heart;
and put thou thy trust in the LORD

The Holy Gospel         John 11:21-27

The Holy Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ according to John
People  Glory to you, Lord Christ

Martha said to Jesus, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died. But even now I know that God will give you whatever you ask of him.” Jesus said to her, “Your brother will rise again.” Martha said to him, “I know that he will rise again in the resurrection on the last day.” Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. Those who believe in me, even though they die, will live, and everyone who lives and believes in me will never die.
Do you believe this?” She said to him, “Yes, Lord, I believe that you are the Messiah, the Son of God, 
the one coming into the world.”

After the Gospel, the Reader says
The Gospel of the Lord.
People Praise to you, Lord Christ.

Homily    The Rev. Patrick Sanders

The people stand and the Celebrant says
In the assurance of eternal life given at Baptism, let us proclaim our faith and say,
Celebrant and People
I believe in God, the Father almighty,
creator of heaven and earth.
I believe in Jesus Christ, his only Son, our Lord.
He was conceived by the power of the Holy Spirit
and born of the Virgin Mary.
He suffered under Pontius Pilate,
was crucified, died, and was buried.
He descended to the dead.
On the third day he rose again.
He ascended into heaven,
and is seated at the right hand of the Father.

He will come again to judge the living and the dead.
I believe in the Holy Spirit,
the holy catholic Church,
the communion of saints,
the forgiveness of sins,
the resurrection of the body,
and the life everlasting. Amen.

The Deacon or other leader says
In peace, let us pray to the Lord.

Almighty God, who hast knit together thine elect in one communion and fellowship, in the mystical body of thy Son Christ our Lord: Grant, we beseech thee, to thy whole Church in paradise and on earth, thy light and thy peace. Amen.

Grant that all who have been baptized into Christ’s death and resurrection may die to sin and rise to newness of life, and that through the grave and gate of death we may pass with him to our joyful resurrection. Amen.

Grant to us who are still in our pilgrimage, and who walk as yet by faith, that thy Holy Spirit may lead us in holiness and righteousness all our days. Amen.

Grant to thy faithful people pardon and peace, that we may be cleansed from all our sins, and serve thee with a quiet mind. Amen.

Grant to all who mourn a sure confidence in thy fatherly care, that, casting all their grief on thee, they may know the consolation of thy love. Amen.

Give courage and faith to those who are bereaved, that they may have strength to meet the days ahead in the comfort of a reasonable and holy hope, in the joyful expectation of eternal life with those they love. Amen.

Help us, we pray, in the midst of things we cannot understand, to believe and trust in the communion of saints, the forgiveness of sins, and the resurrection to life everlasting. Amen.

Grant us grace to entrust Mary Alice. to thy never- failing love; receive her into the arms of thy mercy, and remember her according to the favor which thou bearest unto thy people. Amen.

Grant that, increasing in knowledge and love of thee, she may go from strength to strength in the life of perfect service in thy heavenly kingdom. Amen.

Grant us, with all who have died in the hope of the resurrection, to have our consummation and bliss in thy eternal and everlasting glory, and, with blessed St. Peter and all thy saints, to receive the crown of life which thou dost promise to all who share in the victory of thy Son Jesus Christ; who liveth and reigneth with thee and the Holy Spirit, one God, for ever and ever. Amen.

The Peace
Celebrant: The Peace of the Lord be always with you.
People: And with thy spirit

The Ministers and People greet one another in the name of the Lord.

Oblations brought forward

Eucharistic Prayer I
Celebrant The Lord be with you
People And with thy spirit.
Celebrant Lift up your hearts.
People We lift them up unto the Lord.
Celebrant Let us give thanks unto our Lord God.
People It is meet and right so to do.

Then, facing the Holy Table, the Celebrant proceeds
It is very meet, right, and our bounden duty, that we should at all times, and in all places, give
thanks unto thee, O Lord, holy Father, almighty, everlasting God.

Here a Proper Preface is sung or said on all Sundays, and on other occasions as appointed.
Therefore with Angels and Archangels, and with all the company of heaven, we laud and
magnify thy glorious Name; evermore praising thee, and saying,

Celebrant and People
Holy, holy, holy, Lord God of Hosts:
Heaven and earth are full of thy glory.
Glory be to thee, O Lord Most High.

The people kneel or stand.

Then the Celebrant continues
All glory be to thee, Almighty God, our heavenly Father, for that thou, of thy tender mercy,
didst give thine only Son Jesus Christ to suffer death upon the cross for our redemption; who made there, by his one oblation of himself once offered, a full, perfect, and sufficient sacrifice, oblation, and satisfaction, for the sins of the whole world; and did institute, and in his holy Gospel command us to continue, a perpetual memory of that his precious death and sacrifice, until his coming again.

For in the night in which he was betrayed, he took bread; and when he had given thanks, he
brake it, and gave it to his disciples, saying, “Take, eat, this is my Body, which is given for
you. Do this in remembrance of me.”

Likewise, after supper, he took the cup; and when he had given thanks, he gave it to them,
saying, “Drink ye all of this; for this is my Blood of the New Testament, which is shed for
you, and for many, for the remission of sins. Do this, as oft as ye shall drink it, in
remembrance of me.”

Wherefore, O Lord and heavenly Father, according to the institution of thy dearly beloved Son our Savior Jesus Christ, we, thy humble servants, do celebrate and make here before thy divine Majesty, with these thy holy gifts, which we now offer unto thee, the memorial thy Son hath commanded us to make; having in remembrance his blessed passion and precious death, his mighty resurrection and glorious ascension; rendering unto thee most hearty thanks for the innumerable benefits procured unto us by the same.

And we most humbly beseech thee, O merciful Father, to hear us; and, of thy almighty goodness, vouchsafe to bless and sanctify, with thy Word and Holy Spirit, these thy gifts and creatures of bread and wine; that we, receiving them according to thy Son our Savior Jesus Christ’s holy institution, in remembrance of his death and passion, may be partakers of his most blessed Body and Blood.

And we earnestly desire thy fatherly goodness mercifully to accept this our sacrifice of praise
and thanksgiving; most humbly beseeching thee to grant that, by the merits and death of thy Son Jesus Christ, and through faith in his blood, we, and all thy whole Church, may obtain remission of our sins, and all other benefits of his passion.

And here we offer and present unto thee, O Lord, our selves, our souls and bodies, to be a reasonable, holy, and living sacrifice unto thee; humbly beseeching thee that we, and all others who shall be partakers of this Holy Communion, may worthily receive the most
precious Body and Blood of thy Son Jesus Christ, be filled with thy grace and heavenly benediction, and made one body with him, that he may dwell in us, and we in him.

And although we are unworthy, through our manifold sins, to offer unto thee any sacrifice, yet we beseech thee to accept this our bounden duty and service, not weighing our merits, but pardoning our offenses, through Jesus Christ our Lord; By whom, and with whom, in the unity of the Holy Ghost, all honor and glory be unto thee, O Father Almighty, world without end. AMEN.

And now, as our Savior Christ hath taught us,  we are bold to say,
Our Father, who art in heaven,
hallowed be thy Name,
thy kingdom come,
thy will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.
For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory,
for ever and ever. Amen.

The Breaking of the Bread
The Celebrant breaks the consecrated Bread.
A period of silence is kept.
Then may be said
Alleluia. Christ our Passover is sacrificed for us;
Therefore let us keep the feast. Alleluia.

The Gifts of God for the People of God.
and may add Take them in remembrance that Christ died for you, and feed on him in your hearts by faith, with thanksgiving.

The ministers receive the Sacrament in both kinds, and then immediately deliver it to the people.
The Bread and the Cup are given to the communicants with these words
The Body of Christ, the bread of heaven. [Amen.]
The Blood of Christ, the cup of salvation. [Amen.]

Communion Hymn 688 A Mighty fortress is our God

Post communion Prayer
Celebrant Let us pray
Celebrant and people
Almighty God, we thank thee that in thy great love thou hast fed us with the spiritual food and drink of the Body and Blood of thy Son Jesus Christ, and hast given unto us a foretaste of thy heavenly banquet. Grant that this Sacrament may be unto us a comfort in affliction, and a pledge of our inheritance in that kingdom where there is no death,
neither sorrow nor crying, but the fullness of joy with all thy saints; through Jesus Christ our Savior. Amen.

The Commendation

Celebrant Give rest, O Christ, to your servant with your saints,
People where sorrow and pain are no more, neither sighing, but life everlasting.

Celebrant You only are immortal, the creator and maker of mankind; and we are mortal, formed of the earth, and to earth shall we return. For so did you ordain when you created me, saying, “Dust you are, and to dust you shall return.” All of us go down to the dust; yet even at the grave we make our song: Alleluia, alleluia, alleluia

People Give rest, O Christ, to your servant with your saints, where sorrow and pain are no more, neither sighing, but life everlasting.

The Celebrant, facing the body, says
Into your hands, O merciful Savior, we commend your servant Mary Alice Bailey.
Acknowledge, we humbly beseech you, a sheep of your own fold, a lamb of your own flock, a sinner of your own redeeming. Receive her into the arms of your mercy, into the blessed rest of everlasting peace, and into the glorious company of the saints in light. Amen

The Blessing

The Dismissal

Deacon Let us go forth in the name of Christ.
People Thanks be to God.

For the Retiring Procession:
Hymn 397   Now thank we all our God

The Committal
The following anthem is sung or said
Everyone the Father gives to me will come to me; I will never turn away anyone who believes in me. He who raised Jesus Christ from the dead will also give new life to our mortal bodies through his indwelling Spirit. My heart, therefore, is glad and my spirit rejoices; my body also shall rest in hope. You will show me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy, and in your right hand are pleasures for evermore.

Then, while earth is cast upon the urn, the Celebrant says these words
In sure and certain hope of the resurrection to eternal life through our Lord Jesus Christ, we commend to Almighty God our sister, Mary Alice and we commit her body; earth to earth, ashes to ashes, dust to dust. The Lord bless her and keep her, the Lord make his face to shine upon her and be gracious unto her, the Lord lift up his countenance upon her and give
her peace. Amen.

The Celebrant says
The Lord be with you.
People And also with you.

Celebrant Let us pray as our Savior Christ taught us.
Celebrant and People
The Lord’s Prayer
Our Father, who art in heaven,
hallowed be thy Name,
thy kingdom come, thy will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.
For thine is the kingdom,
and the power,
and the glory for ever and ever.

The Celebrant says
Grant, O Lord, to all who are bereaved the spirit of faith and courage, that they may have strength to meet the days to come with steadfastness and patience; not sorrowing as those without hope, but in thankful remembrance of your great goodness, and in the joyful expectation of eternal life with those they love. And this we ask in the Name of Jesus Christ our Savior. Amen.

Then may be said
Celebrant Rest eternal grant to her, O Lord:
People And let light perpetual shine upon her.
Celebrant May her soul, and the souls of all the departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen.

The Celebrant dismisses the people with these words
Alleluia. Christ is Risen.
People The Lord is risen indeed. Alleluia.
Celebrant Let us go forth in the name of Christ.
People Thanks be to God


The Rev. Patrick Sanders

The Rev. Scott Williams

Earline Sawyer
Sue Cassady

Oblation Bearers
Ann Milsted
Lenny Sawyer

J.T. Anglin

Jim Joest
Paul Krass

Billy Ruble
Norman Ruble
John Ruble
Jim Ownbey
Marvin Koury
Frank Bertucci

Honorary Pallbearers
Cole Peiterson
Scott Peiterson
James Bailey
Bailey Bermond
Finley Bermond

Mary Alice Ballman Bailey
1930 ~ 2020

Mary Alice Ballman Bailey died on September 22, 2020 in Gulfport, MS as she neared her 90th birthday.

Mary Alice was born on October 9, 1930, in Fort Smith, Arkansas to Preston and Grace Ballman. M A, as she was known to her friends, moved to Gulfport with her mother and grandmother in time for her junior year at Gulfport High School. She went on to attend Gulf Park College for Women. In 1951, she married Bob, her high school sweetheart, to whom she remained married until his death in 2002.

After raising their four children to school age, Mary Alice went back to the University of Southern Mississippi and obtained her Bachelor’s Degree in Education beginning her life-long career as an educator. After teaching hundreds of students in the Gulfport School District, she obtained an advanced degree at the University of Southern Mississippi and joined its teacher education department. Mary Alice always put her students first and even obtained her bus driver’s license when she was told no drivers were available to take her students on field trips.

Mary Alice was a strong spirit having spent 70 decades on the Gulfport beach where she experienced the loss of two homes and water in and under the house many times. She rebuilt her home including the iconic gazebo that has graced the front lawn for many years each time. The view of the Gulf, birds, boats, and people were a source of comfort for many years and a view she enjoyed daily since 1947.

While short in stature, Mary Alice was big in heart. She volunteered at many coast organizations including Lynn Meadows Discovery Center, Gulfport Little Theater, the Gulfport Yacht Club, Feed My Sheep, the Junior Auxiliary of Gulfport, Altar Guild of the Episcopal Diocese of Mississippi and many more. She especially enjoyed Mardi Gras and the Krewe of Merry Maskers. Both the people she met and the services she provided brought her great joy.

Having been an only child, Mary Alice loved a full house and always welcomed her children and their friends into the home. She adored her eight grandchildren and three great grandchildren. The children are spread across the country, but M A was the force that held them all together. She will be missed across the country by those that knew and loved her.

Mary Alice was preceded in death by her husband Robert G. (Bob) Bailey, Sr. She is survived by her four children Robert G. (Gil) Bailey, Jr. (Rita) of Gulfport, MS; Gail Bailey Peiterson (Dana) of Kailua, HI; James (Jay) P. Bailey (Susan) of Dallas, TX; Michael S. Bailey of Gulfport, MS.

In addition, she is survived by her grandchildren Bridgett Bailey Bermond (Jeremy) and Katherine (Katie) Bailey of Gulfport, MS; Cole and Scott Peiterson of Kailua, HI; Sarah, Grace, Emma, and James Bailey of Dallas, TX; her great-grandchildren Bailey, Peyton, and Finnley Bermond.

Services are scheduled for Tuesday, September 29, 2020 at St Peter’s by-the-Sea Episcopal Church, Gulfport. Visitation will be from 10:00 – 11:00 A.M. with church service to immediately follow visitation. Interment will follow church service at Floral Hills Memorial Gardens.

All are welcome to attend and celebrate; however, due to health concerns with COVID-19, the service will be streamed though St. Peter’s at the following link All current health regulations will be followed.

Condolences, memories and stories of Mary Alice can be shared at

The family would like to thank Isabella, Jeanelle, Linda and all of her other caregivers from Comfort Keepers for their compassionate care and dedication to our mother over the past few years.

Mary Alice loved her church, the arts, and animals; in lieu of flowers, a donation can be made to one of the following organizations St Peter’s by-the-Sea Episcopal Church, Gulfport Little Theater, or the Humane Society of South Mississippi, or an organization of your choice.

View and sign register book at Bradford-O’Keefe Funeral Home, 15th Street, Gulfport is honored to serve this family.